I think you bring up lot of great points and we can’t discount the biases we have obviously (and need to be aware of them). I enjoyed reading this post.
But recently, I have been observing a trend often times reading articles: those featuring emotional or subjective experiences are almost always written by women. Common themes include social issues — whether about workplace or everyday politics. Whereas, sections about technology: actually building things, hacking, and doing practical things (objective, if I may) seem to have male authors most of the times.
Honestly, I’m not a fan of this trend as it reinforces the very stereotype but it is a big reality, and an anecdote which I see everywhere, everyday — on Medium, Guardian, DailyMail, Independent, Washington Post,…
I obviously work with (and respect) a lot of amazing women who do write about tech and know and like their stuff and I genuinely respect them. Frankly, I personally pay attention to the headline/theme of an article more than the gender of the author (like I said, it’s been a recent observation). That being said, I’m far more interested in an objective, technical topic (e.g. “how to identify so and so vulnerability”) than a subjective one (e.g. “how can we bring more women/LGBTQ in STEM” — it just doesn’t get my attention in the same manner, despite being LGBTQ).
Regarding your men don’t need to be classy, I beg to disagree. I think it may be a one-sided observation in today’s times (playing the devil’s advocate, so bear with me). I see lots of articles where women get to say a lot of things (example) which, if the roles (and everything) were reversed would not look good on a male author at all. Yes, prominent male politicians who have been less than classy may get away in politics (sexist bias) to say the least but have been criticised badly by the media and everyone else, and continue to be (just google Trump, Boris,…). Whereas some female public figures who may have not done the best things, got away. You can never be one-sided with these things, they are complicated.